The Serbian dating scene is equally exciting and confusing. Thankfully, we are here to reveal all the insider tips and secrets to successfully dating Serbian women.
Yes, geographically Serbia is in Europe.
But if you expect casual hookups and girls in monokinis (loose morals seem to be what people expect from us Europeans), you are in for a big surprise. Serbian women are very classy and traditional.
They are anything but one-night stand material, though they are certainly wifey material.
The Serbian dating scene is much more purposeful than what you are used to in the West. If a girl chooses to give you a chance, it will be because you fit her standards for a long-term partner. That might scare you—and it’s ok. I don’t appreciate thinking about a wedding on a first date, either. But chances are that she will.
To impress a Serbian girl you would need more than a nice blazer and a disarming smile. Think of what a woman would be looking for in a husband/steady boyfriend? You want to represent that.
Some of the qualities she expects to see are:
(One of the easiest ways to make money while living in Serbia is to start a website).
The ultimate life hack for dating Serbian women is simply some interest in their country and culture. Eastern Europe is a complicated place, politically and historically speaking, and people here are much more attached to national values than they are in the West. Let’s not forget that war is a very recent reality for most Serbians.
They are all about national pride and presenting their homeland in the best way possible.
You don’t need any knowledge of history or politics to impress your Serbian date, though.
In fact, the less you know, the better. Ask her questions – what are the best places to see, the tastiest foods to try, the phrases that you have to know. One fun way to break the ice is to ask about bad words. You will make her laugh because of your accent and swearing in Serbian is surprisingly satisfying, too. Must be all the rr’s and ss’s.
Everyone seems to have different experiences here, but in my opinion, Eastern Europe is not always the best place to pick girls up on the street. On the one hand, it’s not very common – people in Serbia mind their own business and rarely look for friends/more than friends outside their existing social circle.
If you decide to go talk to random girls on the street you have the surprise factor and most will be way too nice to turn you down immediately. On the other hand, Serbian women are masters of ‘leading you on’.
Yes, there is a reason I put that phrase in quotes.
Serbian girls are more feminine and delicate than your normal Western woman.
They are not into a direct confrontation (at least not in this context, though they can be quite fiery if truly provoked). Say you approach a girl on the street or in a café. Chances are she will smile sweetly at you, maintain the conversation for a few minutes, and then slip away at the first opportunity that comes up. You might have even scored her number in the process but that does not mean she will answer any of your calls or messages.
Remember what I told you about people only dating inside their social circle? There are some exceptions. In general, there are three surefire ways to meet and start dating a beautiful Serbian girl.
Club hookups are just as popular in Serbia as they are anywhere else in the world. Bear in mind that there are two types of clubs – the turbo-folk and the top 40-style places.
Turbo-folk, Serbia’s ‘finest’ musical export, is really more than just music. It’s a culture of flashy clothes, drinking industrial quantities of rakija, and showing off your wealth (no matter if you are actually well off or not). The music itself is not that bad but then again that comes from a foreigner (albeit a European).
For Serbian chicks at these clubs, hedonism rules. They tend to be the gold digger type but also the kind that has ridiculously muscular, tattooed, skinhead kind of vibe boyfriends. Trying to score a girl at a turbo folk club is trickier than you expect even if you have the means to own the kind of watch/order the sort of whiskey that would impress her. Not to mention that at the end of the day, she might very well turn out to only be after your money.
The other clubs are the generic type that you find all over the world.
A bit of hip hop, a bit of Beyoncé, maybe some rock (but only the top hits) and a more international crowd. Girls at these discos are interested in foreign culture, they have often traveled more, and they tend to speak better English as well. In my opinion, these are the ones you should be looking for. They are still unapologetically Serbian—but they’re not as white trash as the turbo folk fans are.
Online dating is ever so popular in Serbia. There are some niche dating services you could use before even arriving in the country. Once you are there, Tinder is also a popular choice. Women on Tinder won’t be as ‘easy’ as you might be used to, though. Unlike the U.S. and Western Europe, Serbian dating through Tinder is not hookup-centred. These are simply single girls looking for an interesting guy.
Eastern European women have long had a reputation of mail-order bride material. Along with that come the scammers.
Although this is not an issue limited to the Serbian dating scene, fake profiles on dating sites are quite common (especially if it’s a free service as those tend to have poor security). The usual common sense rules apply.
Call it a sixth sense but when things don’t feel right they usually are not.
Human Google should be in your arsenal of pick up techniques (and conversation starters in general), anyway. The way it works is you use the other person to get information, much like you would Google. For Serbian girls, your best strategy is asking about the country/city/culture.
Just as I told you, showing interest in Serbian culture is one of the easiest and most effective ice breakers with girls.
You could use it on and offline. Ignoring all the ‘slide in her DM,’ jokes, you could text a girl on Instagram a question about a cool place in her town. Same goes for girls in real life, although picking her up on the street is still a bad idea. But if you do know a Serbian at least vaguely, getting her to show you around or to bring you to her favourite restaurant (dinner is your treat) would be very easy. And there you go, you have got yourself a date!
However you choose to meet and date Serbians remember that the Serbian dating scene is supposed to be fun (and it is).
Don’t take rejections too personally and enjoy seeing the girls that do say yes. Good luck and looking forward to hearing your stories in the comments below.
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