Exert caution when dating Lithuanian women, they are are not like anything you have ever come across.
Although they are also one of the most beautiful, elegant, intelligent, and all around awesome girls you meet, we are genuinely asking ourselves. Is dating Lithuanian women a good idea or is it not worth the effort?
To be honest, I don’t guarantee that I can give you a definite answer. I could, however, tell you about what they are like. You decide for yourself if it’s worth it (I kind of still think it is).
I am going to try and make this sound as non-offensive as possible. These girls are kind of desperate. Where they live, the female to male ratio is ridiculously off. There are simply not enough men for these stunning modelesque creatures to date, let alone enough decent, high-value men.
Speaking of high-value, let’s recap what that even means for the average Eastern European girl vs. the average Lithuanian girl:
I don’t mean the obese, ‘body positivity’ activist curvy, of course. Lithuanian girls, unlike the other Baltic women, do have some curves. If the more boyish figures of Latvian girls are not your thing, head over to Lithuania.
Overall, the women of Lithuania are just more naturally feminine. They tend to have delicate face features, let their hair grow out (and they have the best hair in the world), and they flaunt their curves.
There is a lot of emphasis on education in Lithuania but science and technology tend to get the most attention.
Unlike other Eastern and Northern European countries, Lithuania does not encourage language learning as much. You will instantly notice that finding English speakers is much more difficult. Most of the younger people speak some but definitely not enough for your witty pickup lines to work (but using pick up lines is not that great anyway).
You have two ways out of the language barrier situation.
One would be to learn Lithuanian, or Russian at least. Both are pretty tough languages so it would not be worth it for a short trip. If you plan on relocating in Lithuania, though, taking up Russian would be one of the best decisions you have ever made.
The other way to escape the ‘we literally can’t communicate’ problem is… body language. It is universal and also I have noticed that Lithuanian people mostly flirt through body language. Obviously, don’t make her uncomfortable. If you feel that she is interested though, go ahead and step into her close personal space.
Lingering touches, speaking in a low voice and leaning in, even having your hand around her waist as you speak are all great ways to flirt. And, from my humble experience, they are what supercharges the sexual tension and turns a simple conversation into an exciting interaction.
You might have noticed a trend in most articles we do about Eastern Europe. The guys are few, they drink a lot, smoke a lot, cheat, and sometimes they are even physically abusive. I have to tell you that Lithuanian men are definitely a step above that. Unlike many other countries, Lithuania can boast some very handsome guys who are also these smooth talking experts in seduction – a.k.a. competition for you.
The one thing you can do is appeal to her ego (without moulding yourself to her expectations, of course).
Make a genuine effort to know her instead of showering her with cheap compliments. Yes, she knows her eyes are pretty and that she has a great figure. But you would be surprised at how few guys ask about her childhood/passions/career expectations etc.
Call me old-fashioned, but unless you strictly want a one-night stand, compatibility will matter more than looks anyway. Explore it in the early stages of dating Lithuanian women – you will be doing yourself a favour while melting her heart at the same time.
So do these confident, driven, beautiful women ever have fun? Yes, and you will find the nightlife in Lithuania exceeds your expectations.
Although the country was a part of the Soviet Union, it is very Westernized at this point. Which means that the house parties and the bar hangouts to show off your new outfit (which are so popular in other Eastern European countries) are not what a typical night out looks like. There are plenty of great clubs in Vilnius and even smaller towns have a buzzing nightlife.
Beyond the clubbing scene, Lithuanian girls also like to keep busy overall.
You will not find them spending their free day under the covers watching Netflix. Most women in Lithuania (and most people in general) are all about getting the most out of life. They love exercising, traveling, going to concerts and other fun events, dancing, exploring art galleries etc.
There is always something happening in Lithuanian cities and people take full advantage of these events. It’s a very open, outdoorsy culture (in spite of the low temperatures). Never a dull moment when you are dating Lithuanian women. Or in Lithuania in general. Take full advantage and bring out the fun date ideas. Dinner and a movie is such a cliché anyway.
This one is not about the girls, it is about their mothers, grandmothers, aunts, great aunts etc. Dating Lithuanian women can be tricky because the older generation is not all that accepting of foreigners. Families in Lithuania are very protective of their children, especially of their daughters. Besides, most families just have one kid. So there you have the situation:
Expect some reluctance to trust you from their part.
The old women are also really into gossiping (as most Eastern European babushkas are). Chances are, your Lithuanian girl has to deal with people whispering about her relationship on a daily basis. Not everybody is super enthusiastic about dating a foreigner.
Some would say she is renouncing her culture and traditions to be with you, that you will not be an equal partner, that you two can’t actually even be in love because you don’t understand her on a fundamental level.
You can choose to believe this or you can choose not to.
Either way, it will probably be true to some extent. Dating abroad has its’ unique challenges. An obvious one would be language – I am a firm believer that you can’t truly get to know somebody before you can speak in their language. Bi/Multilingual people literally change personalities when they switch languages.
But does this have to kill your chances of a great relationship with a Lithuanian girl? Nope.
Casual flings aside, long-term relationships require more than your utter admiration of her looks (and hopefully brains). Lithuanian girls are very straightforward so they will let you know if they see any future in the relationship. If they don’t, they will probably dump you. Harsh reality.
Anyway, my biggest tip for dating Lithuanian women is to figure out your plan for the relationship very early on. Dating sites for singles abroad would let you put that in your profile – whether you are willing to move or not. Think about it and don’t become invested in the relationship before you are sure you are compatible in this aspect.
PS: You can browse the profiles of Lithuanian and other Baltic girls right here (for free).
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