This article about Bulgarian girls is written by a local!
Bulgarian girls are fairy-like creatures, they are modern goddesses, they are the perfect women – stunning, smart, down-to-earth, ready to serve their men in any way possible. Wait, what? You mean all the pickup forums and advice columns lie?
We actually don’t live our lives waiting for a rich(er than us) dude to sweep us off our feet? Sorry to burst your happy bubble 🙂
Women from Bulgaria, or generally, Eastern European women are not perpetual damsels in distress that see any moderately well-off Westerner as their knight in shining armor. In fact, we are pretty dang badass and here is a handy guide to us, what to expect, what to avoid, all that jazz.
No need to be humble here, the average Bulgarian is anything but average. Not only are we genetically blessed with a beautiful complexion, slender figure and striking blue eyes (maybe don’t quote me on that, but I am sure there are much more blue-eyed Bulgarians than any other color), but we were also raised to take good care of what we got.
In the average neighborhood in any of our cities, you will find at least a few gyms and beauty salons and they all have frequent customers. Exercising to us is rarely about buying a card to a gym you will never go to. Of course, not all Bulgarian girls are professional bodybuilders and athletes, but in general, we are much more fit than our Western counterparts. Which has two consequences for you:
…and you are welcome to fawn as much as you like.
To get our attention, you will also need some muscle on you. There is an over-exaggerated macho look that has been popular among our men for a few years now, no need to go there to win over a sexy Bulgarian of your own. Be aware that we like to see that you take care of yourself, just as much as we do of ourselves.
What is more, we do eat very little and no, it has nothing to do with trying to appear ladylike. The key to maintaining our enviable shape (other than regular exercise) is small portions. Bulgarian girls rarely cut out any foods, but they know to enjoy everything in moderation, so don’t be surprised if she turns down that dessert offer.
…of seeing so many girls with caked-on faces, hair that has suffered hot irons for a few years now and way-too-sexy, somewhat tacky outfits. Natural beauty is not something we do, not really. I know it might not be your thing, but still try to respect the effort gals put into themselves. I promise not all Bulgarian women are foundation on foundation on foundation kind of people.
When it comes to style, even those of us that try not to go overboard will probably look more dressed up than the Western girls you are used to. We love our high heels (yes, even in winter when the sidewalks are covered with ice and a simple trip to the grocery shop can be a life risk), skinny jeans and plunging necklines.
As for what we look for style-wise in men, it doesn’t have to be much but it shouldn’t be low-class.A nice-looking watch, combined with some sharp shoes and maybe even a decent jacket, will go a long way.
Bear in mind that even though some girls dress borderline slutty, this has 0 correlation to how easy she is. In fact, we are more about teasing, than the actual pleasing.
Bulgarian women are anything but lazy, entitled hotties, even if the stereotype sometimes portrays us as such. No, I don’t have a rich boyfriend/husband/sugar daddy.
In fact, money is more of a status thing for us, meaning that we like the guy to make more than us because it makes us feel like we dated up, but it’s not anything we insist on. Case in point, I have had boyfriends that make less than I do and it was not even something that remotely bothered me.
However, if you do make more than she does/work while she is a struggling student, you will be expected to pay for stuff more often than she does. Most Bulgarian girls think this is only fair since her tighter budget makes it more difficult to afford things that you can easily pay for if you are more well-off.
We are also a lot about developing ourselves and having an independent career, even when married. There are very few Bulgarian girls that intend to become housewives, so we are driven and value education very highly.
That last one might hurt your image in front of a Bulgarian (not only girls but in general) — if you are not college-educated there is some stigma and people might look down on you. Then again, this depends on the Bulgarians that you hang out with, but is usually true for the type of people foreigners usually meet. Try not to be offended, and I am sorry in advance if you do.
Honesty and humility are two qualities that if missing can be an easy deal breaker for us. More than anything we are put off by boastfulness, since we avoid to boast about our successes, too. Any girl that does tolerate a man, too enamored in himself, will do it because she associates him with money/status.
That’s not the kind of person you want to attract, right?
So stay down-to-earth and don’t brag too much about that new car/promotion/luxurious trip that you’ve been on.
PS: Read about the top things to do in Bulgaria here.
I have mentioned already (in the guide to Eastern European girls) that we are quite conservative in terms of what we want. A nice house, a few adorable kids, and a decent husband is probably what most Bulgarian girls see in their future. We are great at maintaining long-term relationships, but often have issues with short-term open ones, since it’s not the model we are used to.
So should you give up your hopes of smooching a hot Bulgarian, if you are not prepared to propose, yet? Nope, but there are some tips and strategies.
For starters, if you are looking for hookups hit the clubs, but careful which ones.
The folk discos are usually dense in orange-faced gals and buff, scary looking dudes.
They are pretty much a place Bulgarians go in bigger groups and stay within the group when dancing, hence if you’re only going with a few friends it might not be as fun. The chances of meeting local girls are slimmer as well.
Usually, a better place to meet Bulgarian girls are clubs with pop/electronic music, a.k.a. the generic disco music you find in venues all over the world. Yes, these discos are not anything special or idiosyncratic, but they attract a friendlier, more relaxed and open crowd. It does not take too long to take a girl’s attention if you are fun, smiley and dance (as opposed to creepily staring while sipping your scotch on the rocks). Try not to get clingy, a lot of gals like to do casual hookups — usually nothing further than 2nd base — but it does not mean that they will want to grab coffee with you the next day.
Make sure to check out the Sofia Nightlife guide.
Wh-wha-what? Girls that want relationships are into casual hookups without a date to follow?
Does not make much sense to me either, but it is what it is. My personal explanation is that even if we like the thrill of a hookup, we might not like you as much the next morning, so we turn from seductress to flake in no time.
Speaking of flaking, yes, we do it and no, I won’t apologize for that. With the risk of sounding a bit like that infamous Gretchen Weiners (‘I can’t help it that I’m popular.’), we do get a lot of offers and some of those offers are from downright creepy people. So we keep our guard up and more often than not act a bit … bitchy.
Even to nice dudes.
This is where having thick skin comes into play. Be prepared that Bulgaria women will tease you to the point where it seems like mockery, that she might seem super into you and then disappear, she is hot, then she’s cold.
Not fair, but still kind of fair, take it as a challenge.
If you’re out and about in the clubs, most of us speak English. But if you want to learn a few words, we’ll be impressed. Check out this guide to the Bulgarian language.
Now that I have taken a paragraph to scare you a bit, what are some benefits to dating a Bulgarian lady? What are not?
For starters, we are awesome homemakers and we won’t mind spending some time in the kitchen to bake you some real homemade banitsa.
To us, this is more than finding the way to your heart through your stomach, it’s more like showing care (and showing off an awesome recipe). You will not be expected to do the same, but when it comes to making reservations, ordering wine and paying when we eat out — that is an entirely different story.
We are faithful. No, but really, we ARE.
This is a part of the reason why we can’t handle open relationships well, Bulgarian girls are simply too committed to you for something like that. But we truly are wifey material when it comes to fidelity and that’s nice of us, right?
We are independent. Well, mostly. Your Bulgarian girlfriend enjoys you spoiling her and will probably shove you into that traditional male role of the breadmaker if you decide to make things serious, but don’t assume she can’t survive without you.
She can and she will, and if she doesn’t be cautious. A girl that sees you as an ATM with a penis is probably not fun to be with. For the rest (a.k.a.) most Bulgarian girls, we will be your equal partner for the serious stuff and we do not particularly seek somebody to look after us.
PS: Convinced already? So venture out there and get yourself a Bulgarian girl.
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