There is only one reason to believe anything I say below regarding Eastern European women.
I am not a pickup artist, a dating guru or the ultimate ladies man. I am not even a man. But as a girl born and raised in Eastern Europe (beautiful Bulgaria, to be exact) that is currently dating a foreigner, I have some authority on the subject.
But let’s get to the point. You are reading this because you’re interested in Eastern European women. A general point of advice—attracting any woman can be broken down into two very broad steps:
So I am here to tell you what Eastern Europeans are like, what they love and what they look for. You just have to do you. But show the best parts of you.
I’m not trying to brag here, but an average girl in Eastern Europe is at least a 7.
Although most of us are naturally good-looking, we learn from an early age that you have to go beyond what your genetics gave you. A bare face is just seen as lazy and you will hardly ever see a girl running around in a messy bun and a hoodie (if you dig that look maybe consider dating an American, just saying).
We work hard to get our good looks and we’re not ashamed to admit it. Putting in effort makes everything better, so we celebrate the time and energy a women puts in her appearance.
This of course has the flip side that we may come across as too high maintenance. I will not lie to you, some girls really are. In fact, it is a great way to spot a gold digger (a foreigner often attracts at least some of these). Heavy makeup, claw-like nails, excessive flirting… All of those should be red flags for you.
For the most part though Slavic girls know not to cross the fine line between sultry and slutty. So since we spend so much on looking our very best, we expect men to follow suit.
Here’s a few practical tips:
You will probably notice that most Eastern European men are in good shape. But even those who are not carry themselves with a lot of confidence, to the point of arrogance. This doesn’t mean that the ‘I can kill you with my bare hands if I wanted to’ look is the type that attracts all girls (if anything, those men can be very annoying and it seems that their hyper-macho behavior is aimed to impress other men).
There is one thing you can take out of this though, and it’s the confidence. It’s not news that you need it, just a gentle reminder that if you don’t have it the rest matters a lot less.
As for style, think casual elegance. The worst mistake you can make is to over-dress, so only wear things you feel awesomely comfortable in. At the same time, you will see locals sporting flashier outfits than what you might be used to. If you ask me, a lot of their choices are plain bad taste, but since they wear it in a bold and cool way, it ends up suiting them. It does not mean it will suit you, so once again, wear stuff that makes you feel great.
A sexy blazer and well-fitting pants is an outfit that is hard to mess up. At clubs and at dates, go for a nice shirt (it is kind of the rule here to dress up when you go partying). During the day or at more casual outings a slim-fit T-shirt, preferably solid-colored, does pretty well. Details matter as well—a good watch, perfume and polished shoes never go unnoticed.
Women are women and men are men and that is beautiful. Eastern European girls fully embrace their feminine nature. We would hate to be seen as the slightest bit masculine. We take pride in our cooking skills and cleaning superpowers. A messy woman is often seen as less of a woman (although this is not something us, young people, necessarily agree on, we were raised like that). The collective opinion seems to be a lot easier on messy men.
So let me sound weird for a minute. There is something motherly in the way us Eastern European women, treat our men. We love to show off this great recipe we just learned and we don’t mind ironing your shirt. At the same time, you are expected to help out as much as possible on your own good will.
She won’t tell you it bothers her if you don’t (after all, our mothers told us this is a women’s work), but it really, really does.
Just as she is feminine, aim to emphasize your masculinity. We love us a good knight in shining armor. Seize any opportunity to ‘save’ her. On a similar note, you should take the first step.
An Eastern European lady wants you to be the active party in the dating game, to sweep her off her feet even. So do not be afraid to go up to that cutie. Her initial lukewarm smile should not make you give up. There is a limit though and you never want to be eager to the point of creepy. A ‘no’ is a ‘no’ and there is nothing less attractive than a guy, who seems too desperate.
A good way to strike the balance of interested and not too invested (so a possible rejection doesn’t hurt you) is to steer clear of complicated pick-up scenarios. A simple
‘Hey, I really think you’re attractive and I’d love to get to know you. How would feel about a coffee date?’ is way better. Also, ask for her Facebook, not her number. It seems way more casual and we spend so much time on it that it’s just as reliable as the latter.
You slept with her on a first date and still pursued her?! Ew, man, I would never want someone like that to be my girlfriend.
This is an actual quote from one of my male colleagues. Such double standards are still extremely prevalent in Eastern Europe. We, as women, are taught that our beauty and youth are too valuable to be easily given away. In Western countries, one night stands, club quickies and drunken hookups with strangers are almost the norm.
No such things here.
And if a girl is suddenly very, very into that—once again, gold digger red flag. Or a straight-up hooker.
So how do you get high-value Eastern European ladies?
Ditch the tricks and aim for genuine connection.
Think about it this way:
You have a relationship with every single person you meet. It doesn’t have to last to be amazing. Why not get the most of your interaction? Take your time to get to know her and be honest about your intentions even if sex is the main one. I’ve heard plenty of stories of girlfriends who ended up in a fun fling with a charming, albeit not very much boyfriend-material guy. We are told that guys will try to trick us into getting in bed and we should preserve our modesty, so it’s refreshing when someone is upfront about their intentions towards us. It will get you further than you can imagine. At the same time, our somewhat prudish upbringing does not make us the best partners for short-term relationships, so don’t be surprised if she gets too invested after the first few dates.
And a word of warning on girls with serious boyfriends. They might allow you to get close to them and even flirt back. But you will rarely get anything more than friendly conversation with them. I call this ‘prudent cheating’. She gets the thrill of a new guy, without actually endangering her stable relationship. Conclusion? Don’t expect much. Although to every rule there is an exception…
You might think that a culture that is still so conservative, would not expect a woman to have much of a career. Well, think again. There are hardly any women in Eastern Europe that are just housewives. We grew up seeing that both of our parents work full-time jobs and they expect us to do the same. Education and career are very much valued here. Traditional jobs such as a doctor, an engineer, a lawyer, a policeman are seen as prestigious and are what would impress us.
However, money still does matter to us and that is exactly the reason you might attract some gold-diggers. A German friend of mine recently told me the sad story of her acquaintance who married a Bulgarian woman, only to discover that she expected him to be the main provider in the family as he was German and hence, rich. I can’t imagine how blind that guy has been to marry her, but do expect your Eastern European girl to have similar views on foreign men.
So the solution for you?
Aim to highlight your success, not your financial status. It’s bad manners to boast about money anyways. Eastern European women love good intelligent conversations and most are probably tired of dull rich boys trying to get with her.
Regardless, know that you are expected to pay for the first few dates. After that you would usually end up taking turns on whose treat it is, but still, try to be the one who’s more generous; i.e. the one who ends up paying slightly more.
In conclusion, we Eastern European women are pretty dang awesome.
We work hard to look, earn and live well. For us the guy should be the king to his beautiful queen. It is not that we cannot live without men, it is that we know that a great relationship makes life richer and we know how to value that.
For a girl in Eastern Europe building a lasting partnership is a priority, so you are going to be a priority. Make her feel as important as you are to her.
Have fun and don’t forget to spend some time exploring our countries, as you enjoy the beauty of our women!
PS: Here are some of the best sites to meet Eastern European women: