Bulgarian girls are fairy-like creatures, they are modern goddesses, they are perfect women – stunning, smart, down-to-earth, ready to serve their men in any way possible.
Wait, what? You mean all the pickup forums and advice columns lie?
It surely looks like it! And today we have a local’s opinion on Bulgarian girls, what do they like and what should you expect when dating one. I’m sure she knows what she’s talking about – and you’ll also get some insider’s secrets from her. Perfect!
Despite what some articles might try to say, women from Bulgaria (like most Eastern European women) are not perpetual damsels in distress that see any moderately well-off Westerner as their knight in shining armor.
They actually don’t live their entire lives waiting for a richer guy to sweep them off their feet and “save” them from a poor country. No, Bulgarian women are pretty badass, independent and down to earth. You’ll love them even more for that!
Where to meet Bulgarian women?
Things might’ve been a bit different in the past, but today the best place to meet Bulgarian women is signing up for this website called International Cupid.
This comes with a plethora of advantages. Not only that you will only find there no timewasters – just ladies that are genuinely looking for a relationship, but you will also have a big advantage over other means of meeting them.
First of all, the competition will be much lower since not all men are willing to pay for a website. But the fact that you do also sends strong signals their way – it shows that you know what you want and you know how to get it. You can afford this and are no time waster either.
With hundreds of women from Bulgaria to choose from – genuine ladies, too, not your regular scammers that you might find elsewhere, this is the best place for you to start “hunting”. Best part? You don’t even have to be in the country yet to meet the locals!
Bulgarian Women: The Looks
No need to be humble here, the average Bulgarian lady is… anything but average.
Not only are they genetically blessed with a beautiful complexion, slender figure and striking blue eyes (maybe don’t quote me on that, but I am sure there are much more blue-eyed Bulgarians than any other color), but they were also raised to take good care of what nature gave them.
In the average neighborhood in any city, you will find at least a few gyms and beauty salons and they all have frequent customers among the ladies.
Exercising here is rarely about buying a card to a gym you will never go to.
Of course, not all Bulgarian girls are professional bodybuilders and athletes, but in general, they are much more fit than their Western counterparts. Which has two consequences for you:
1. You will instantly notice how they take care of themselves…
(…and you are welcome to fawn as much as you like.)
This comes with a potential downside: to get their attention, you will also need a bit of muscle on you.
There is an over-exaggerated macho look that has been popular among Bulgarian men for years now, but there’s no need to go there to win over a beautiful Bulgarian of your own.
However, they do like to see that you take care of yourself just as much as they do for themselves. You can’t expect to receive without giving anything in return, right?
What is more, Bulgarian women will eat very little and no, it has nothing to do with trying to appear ladylike.
The key to maintaining their enviable shape (other than regular exercise) is small portions. Bulgarian girls rarely cut out any foods, but they know to enjoy everything in moderation, so don’t be surprised if she turns down that dessert offer.
2. All the focus on cultivating physical beauty, however, comes with the nasty consequence…
…of seeing so many girls with caked-on faces, hair that has suffered hot irons for a few years now and way-too-tight, somewhat tacky outfits.
Natural beauty is not something that seems to be very valued here (which is a shame, because there’s LOTS of it).
I know it might not be your thing, but still try to respect the effort gals put into themselves. I promise not all Bulgarian women are foundation on foundation on foundation kind of people.
When it comes to style, even those that try not to go overboard will probably look more dressed up than the Western girls you are used to.
They love their high heels (yes, even in winter when the sidewalks are covered with ice and a simple trip to the grocery shop can be a life risk), skinny jeans and plunging necklines.
As for what we look for style-wise in men, it doesn’t have to be much but it shouldn’t be low-class. Bear in mind that even though some girls dress borderline slutty based by some standards, this has 0 correlation to how easy they are.
In fact, ladies here seem to be more about teasing, than the actual pleasing.
What Are Bulgarian Girls Like
Bulgarian women are anything but lazy, entitled hotties, even if the stereotype sometimes portrays them as such. Their dream is not that of meeting a rich dude that will make all their wishes come true.
In fact, money is more of a status thing for them, meaning that they like the guy to make more than they do because it makes them feel like they dated up, but it’s not anything they insist on.
Case in point, I have had boyfriends that made less than I do and it was not even something that remotely bothered me.
However, if you do make more than she does/work while she is a struggling student, you will be expected to pay for stuff more often than she does.
Most Bulgarian girls think this is only fair since her tighter budget makes it more difficult to afford things that you can easily pay for if you are more well-off.
They are also a lot about developing themselves and having an independent career, even when married. There are very few Bulgarian girls that intend to become housewives, so they are driven and value education very highly.
That last one might hurt your image in front of a Bulgarian (not only girls but in general) – if you are not college-educated, there is some stigma and people might look down on you.
Then again, this depends on the Bulgarians that you hang out with, but is usually true for the type of people foreigners usually meet. Try not to be offended, and I am sorry in advance if you do.
Honesty and humility are two qualities that if missing can be an easy deal breaker for girls here. More than anything they are put off by boastfulness, since they avoid to boast about their successes, too.
Any girl that does tolerate a man, too enamored in himself, will do it because she associates him with money/status.
That’s not the kind of person you want to attract, right?
So stay down-to-earth and don’t brag too much about that new car/promotion/luxurious trip that you’ve been on. You can tell her about it and it might impress her – but that’s about it.
What It’s Like Dating a Bulgarian
I have mentioned already that women here are quite conservative in terms of what they want. A nice house, a few adorable kids, and a decent husband is probably what most Bulgarian girls see in their future.
They are great at maintaining long-term relationships, but often have issues with short-term open ones, since it’s not the model they are used to.
So should you give up your hopes of smooching a hot Bulgarian, if you are not prepared to propose, yet? Nope, but there are some tips and strategies.
For starters, if you are looking for hookups hit the clubs, but careful which ones. The folk discos are usually dense in orange-faced gals and buff, scary looking dudes.
They are pretty much a place Bulgarians go in bigger groups and stay within the group when dancing, hence if you’re only going with a few friends it might not be as fun. The chances of meeting local girls are slimmer as well.
Usually, a better place to meet Bulgarian girls are clubs with pop/electronic music, a.k.a. the generic disco music you find in venues all over the world.
Yes, these discos are not anything special or idiosyncratic, but they attract a friendlier, more relaxed and open crowd.
It does not take too long to take a girl’s attention if you are fun, smiley and dance (as opposed to creepily staring while sipping your scotch on the rocks).
Try not to get clingy, a lot of gals like to do casual hookups – usually nothing further than 2nd base – but it does not mean that they will want to grab coffee with you the next day.
Make sure to check out the Sofia Nightlife guide for more details on how to approach this situation.
Wh-wha-what? Girls that want relationships are into casual hookups without a date to follow?
It doesn’t make much sense to me either, but it is what it is. My personal explanation is that even if Bulgarian ladies like the thrill of a hookup, they might not like you as much the next morning, so they turn from seductress to flake in no time.
Speaking of flaking, yes, they do it and no, they won’t apologize for that. With the risk of sounding a bit like that infamous Gretchen Weiners (‘I can’t help it that I’m popular.’), we do get a lot of offers and some of those offers are from downright creepy people. So we keep our guard up and more often than not act a bit… bitchy.
Even to nice dudes.
This is where having thick skin comes into play. Be prepared that Bulgaria women will tease you to the point where it seems like mockery, that she might seem super into you and then disappear, she is hot, then she’s cold.
Not fair, but still kind of fair, take it as a challenge!
Some Benefits to Dating Bulgarian Girls
Now that I have taken a paragraph to scare you a bit, what are some benefits to dating a Bulgarian lady? What are not?
For starters, they are awesome homemakers and they won’t mind spending some time in the kitchen to bake you some real homemade banitsa.
To us, this is more than finding the way to your heart through your stomach, it’s more like showing care (and showing off an awesome recipe).
You will not be expected to do the same, but when it comes to making reservations, ordering wine and paying when we eat out – that is an entirely different story.
We are faithful. No, but really, we ARE.
This is a part of the reason why women here can’t handle open relationships well. Bulgarians are simply too committed to you for something like that. But they are truly wifey material when it comes to fidelity and that’s nice of them, right?
They are also independent. Well, mostly. Your Bulgarian girlfriend enjoys you spoiling her and will probably shove you into that traditional male role of the breadmaker if you decide to make things serious, but don’t assume she can’t survive without you.
She can and she will, and if she doesn’t – be cautious. A girl that sees you as an ATM is probably not fun to be with. For the rest (a.k.a. most Bulgarian girls), they will be your equal partner for the serious stuff and they do not particularly seek somebody to look after us.
You can learn more about the Bulgarian culture here – so that you’re ready when you visit.
Unlike what some publications tell you, ladies in Bulgaria are not all gold diggers waiting for rich Western men to come to the rescue.
Yes, many do consider it an advantage to be from the West (the US gets bonus points, for example since we all grew being exposed to the “American Dream”), but it’s not the only thing that matters.
Sure, it does help to be well off and afford a bit of luxury, but as long as you are a nice human being, you care about your partner’s opinions and respect her, you stand a chance with maybe 90% of the ladies here.
Bulgarian women are special and you will be more than happy when you finally get to be with one.
For any additional experiences with ladies here – as well as your personal opinions about them, the comments section below is waiting for you.